True friends look out for each other and help each other blossom. You can only thrive when you march with the right people.
Life coach Dinorah Blackman explains how you can tell if you are stuck in a toxic friendship:
Toxic relationships are based on manipulation. A person who uses tears, tantrums, threats or bribery to bully you into doing what he or she wants is not a good companion.
Toxic friends are usually unavailable when your hard times come. There is nothing like difficulties to show you who your real friends are. Some people might use the liberating-sounding excuse that they do not have time for other people’s dramas, but the truth is that real friends hang around even when your cup is empty. And then they help you to fill it up again.
Toxic people are always raining on your parade. Everybody has dreams and you are entitled to them. Because your true friends care about you, they offer honest advice, but they still support your wild ambitions. Stay away from people who are quick to point out all the reasons why your idea is going to fail.
Toxic relationships can be exhausting. Walking on eggshells can really wear you out. A true friend permits you to be yourself without taking everything too personally.
Toxic people think it is their duty to improve you. Avoid people who are constantly criticizing everything you do and are intent on changing you. Although friends help each other to grow, the process cannot be forced, it comes naturally.
Toxic relationships isolate you from friends and family. Beware of any association that consumes so much of your time and energy that you barely have a moment left for other friends and family. Toxic people tend to engulf you to the point that you feel like you are suffocating. Friends who have each other’s best interest at heart know that everybody needs space sometimes, and they are willing to step back and allow you to adjust at your own pace knowing well that this does not mean that the friendship is over.
Partner with someone who shares your goals and dreams.
A good friend is cheaper than therapy. ~Author Unknown
Sidestepping the 'anon' conversation, what are some of your favorite band(s)?
Well the only bands (or well, music made by more than one person) I listen to are considered the ‘lame’ ones by a lot of my friends. Meaning like, Forever the Sickest Kids, Cobra Starship, Angels & Airwaves, Panic! At The Disco before they dropped their !, became all indie then a second later brought back their !, Ok Go, Coldplay, Maroon 5, Death Cab For Cutie,Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Klaxons, MGMT, Every Avenue, The Academy Is…, Gym Class Heroes, etc. etc.
i'm exactly like you when it comes to anon hate. i don't think twice about it and just make a joke out of it because it's not even something to sweat over.
I’m glad someone knows what I’m sayin. It just doesn’t bother me at all. I’m not going to stop posting what I like or stop being myself just because some faceless person told me they hate me or my blog or some shit like that.
i'm not your anon, but. no one shuts their laptop and cries for 10 minutes over a petty insult. You do however, seem to be getting quite worked up about this.
Your blog is charming, btw.
I was actually joking around about the crying thing but I guess it just wasn’t that funny of a joke? I don’t mean to sound worked up about anything, it’s just annoying getting anonymous hate. Thank you for the compliment though!
anon is jealous. their blog sucks.
p.s. your blog is incredible. always has been one of my favorites. : )
Emily, you’re so sweet.
Seriously though, I don’t care. I’m not even like one of those people on tumblr who claim they don’t care then secretly slowly close their laptop window & cry for like 10 minutes about it, I’m like an emotionless robot when it comes to anonymous haters haha